Remember a time when you were dating. . .
You’d make time to do those things that made you feel good.
(Don’t laugh, I used to meditate before a date. Yes, I really did. Had to calm myself down somehow!)
Now back to the present and a reality check.
Do you still make time to do those very important “feel good” activities?
Before you tell me you don’t have time to spend on yourself, consider that there are many activities you could do that would take much less time to complete than the time you currently spend worrying about how you’re going to get it all done.
Truth is, you’ll never get it all done so stop pretending you can.
I’m a coach remember? I”ve heard every excuse in the book, and I’ve said a few myself.
But what if you made the time to look and feel as good for yourself as you did for your dates?
Hmm. . .what might that look like???
1. Make time for yourself.
Grab your schedule, your iPhone, wall calendar, whatever, and book a date with yourself.
You know how you’d never blow off an appointment with your doctor, kid’s teacher or important client?
That’s how you want to be thinking of this date with yourself. You don’t have to know what the date will be just yet, because what you do on this date is much less important than your willingness to show up for it.
Set the date.
2. Get S.M.A.R.T. about your date setting.
How often have you made some vague plan in your mind about what you’ll do on the weekend?
Right. Vagueness begone!
It’s time to get SMART and strategic about how to make this happen!
- Specific – What will you do on your date?
- Measurable – How will you know your date’s been a success?
- Achievable – What actions are required and can you make it happen?
- Relevant – How will this date impact your life?
- Timely – When will this date take place?
Imagine how great your dates will be when you have a plan for each of the points above.
Psst. . .works great in other areas of life too!
3. Follow through.
It’s time for a reality check.
What will have you keep this date with yourself?
- accountability – tell a friend and you’ll be more likely to keep the date.
- plan ahead – consider what you need: lunch with a friend, a spa date or a good chick flick
- get support – tell your spouse, book a babysitter, etc.
Once you’re clear on what you need, it’ll be easier to stick to the structure you’ve set up for yourself.
The more you keep these dates with yourself, the more you’ll remember your value and the better you’ll feel in all areas of your life. Your commitment will support you in developing a juicy connection with yourself.
And who doesn’t want more of that?
Over to you:
What will your first date with you be like?
Sandi Amorim is a fiery coach and instigator on a mission to have you shine. She works with creative, entrepreneurial women who are tired of “someday, maybe” thinking and ready to take action on their dreams. You can find her sharing her passion at Deva Coaching.
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Tags: Coaches Corner, Health, Self Care